50 First Dates

50 First Dates, which directed by Peter Segal was released in 2004. Starring Adam Sandler (My favourite guy =D) and Drew Barrymore (Such a sweet girl). A touching love story that most girls could cry for it. Henry Roth (Adam Sandler) is a wildlife veterinarian in Hawaii, who meets Lucy Whitmore (Drew Barrymore) a woman who has a short-term memory loss from a car accident a year earlier. Henry is a ladies man on the island who has been breaking the hearts of female tourists for years. Henry meets Lucy at a local cafe and takes her out on a date. Henry falls in love with Lucy, but there is one problem when she awakens in the morning, she can't remember him or anything that happened that day. Henry must devise a plan to meet Lucy everyday and try to get her to fall in love with him again and again. He had experienced rejection by Lucy at first, and caught her attention by injuring himself, he tells lies, all he does are trying to help her to recall their memories. But all these seem to fail and doctor announces that her condition may gone worse. Yet Henry never seems to give up, he films a video by recording the days and moment they went through together, and plays it every morning when Lucy wakes up. They gets married and had a daughter. But Lucy still lost her memory ever since she awakes on her bed. But I do believe they live happy ever after =D...

The friend 2

Talking about my friends again, i did some catching up with them when i went back to penang. They asked me what i was studying and i told them i was studying human communication. They looked at me with a confused look and asked me why i choose human com. They actually thought that I, from all the people in the world had trouble communicating with other people and needed to take a subject to teach me to talk. I told them more bout it and i told them about Mark Knapp's development model. All of them were actually interested in what i had to say about the model and started analyzing their relationships. One of my friend said "OMG, im only at the intensifying stage!! I'm so far from the top!!!!". I actually had to explain that she had to get married to reach the final stage. She just replied with a big smile and said, "I so got to do that. I wanna reach the top!! All of us there just stared at her and started laughing really hard. Her boyfriend laugh as well but i think he had other things racing through his mind.

The friend

I actually went back to penang last week on wed, straight after my exams to see a friend of mine who needs all the comforting she can get. She just broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. She told me the story of how they broke up. Having to think, i actually put hum communication into the reasons why they broke up. Again, miscommunication is the main killer of this relationship. The guy, says he needed the space and said she had an attitude problem so he said he is going to give her a month to change. She, on the other hand actually screamed "GIVE ME ONE MONTH TO CHANGE???? IM NOT AN ASSIGNMENT OR SOMETHING WHICH HAS A DEADLINE!! iM A HUMAN!!" Without talking it out, she storms out and never gave him another chance to talk. The miscommunication here is that he listens to his friends that said he should break up with her because she had an attitude problem. Without actually talking it out with her, he concluded that his girlfriend had an attitude problem. His friends apparently only cling to their first impression of her. The fact was when they first met her, she was not feeling herself and had ignored them. I feel that that is just the problem with everyone. They should not just cling to first impression but then take the time to know a person before judging the person.

Advertisements and Communication

I'm sure you've seen and advertisement (unless of course you're blind........wait if you are, then you can't read this post either.....oh well) When you're surfing the net, you see annoying pop-up ads, when driving along the road, you see massive advertisements everywhere you look and even in magazines there are colorful, out of place ads that disrupt you from the actual content of the book.

Sometimes you see ads with alot of words on it, but it usually doesn't get you to buy it, but the more professional ones only have 3 or so words and it will usually compel you to buy that product. For example: Nike. They're ad just says "Just do it!". 3 words, 3 simple words and a picture of a Nike product is enough to make at least 100 people buy it.

And then on one of those billboard ads, there'll be a picture of a famous celebrity with a milk mustache and next to him/her/it there would be two simple words: "Got milk?". The fact that this ad style has been used for years is proof enough on how well it works.

Psychologically speaking, this method works because it imprints the image of the product in our heads, and the words will make us recognize it better. And so, when we see milk, or a Nike product, subconsciously we feel like buying it because of the advertisement. How much words and pictures can affect a human mind can be very frightening and useful at the same time, but that's the power of communication. So be it psychological or just very convincing, this one-way form of communication used by big buisnesses works and it works well.